On Marriage

“Baum is an erudite and entertaining guide through the landscape of marriage, bringing a lively intellectual rigour to changing attitudes on matters of religion, feminism, parenting and sexuality. . . . A fascinating exploration.”—Stephanie Merritt, The Guardian

“Baum is not interested in the rights or wrongs of marriage, only its varied manifestations and meanings. . . . [This] makes her work compelling, as does her willingness to self-interrogate.”—Sophie Elmhirst, Times (UK)

“A rollicking account about marriage in books, movies, and culture, told with authority and genuine warmth.”—Kirkus Reviews (starred review)

“Devorah Baum is a visionary writer. Her intellectual depth, her emotional precision and her searing insight can only be gathered under an old fashioned word: wisdom. If more ‘self-help’ was written by people as smart and emotionally intuitive as Devorah, then more people would actually feel ‘helped.’”—Zadie Smith

“Everything you thought you knew about conjugal beds, secrets, feuds, confessions, triangulations and solaces will be pleasurably complicated by Devorah Baum’s wryly insightful tell-all regarding the infinite perversity of marriage—including her own, mine, and probably yours.”—Laura Kipnis, author of Love in the Time of Contagion: A Diagnosis

“Because marriage doesn’t always bring out the best in us, it makes us wonder what the best in us might be. It is part of the extraordinary wit and wisdom of Baum’s remarkable book to show us what kind of romance, and experiment in living, we have wanted marriage to be. This is the brilliant book that we could never have expected about marriage, and its alternatives.”—Adam Phillips

“Philosophically and emotionally smart. Devorah Baum brings her literary understandings, psychoanalytic scholarship and great aplomb to the marriage conundrum. It’s very funny too. Who wouldn’t want to marry Devorah?”—Susie Orbach

“Rarely has the subject of marriage been attended to with such intelligence, breadth of reading and insight, but also with such scrutiny and hope. Baum is hopeful about marriage, but also honest and anxious about it. She is committed to its contradictions and complexities. There is doubt and humility, as well as a quiet ardour to her analysis.”—Hisham Matar